Dear Alli,

I understand that today you are feeling no so right with the whole parenting thing. I understand that you are also tired, so you may be extra emotional too. Maybe it would be a good thing if you remember that.

First, I want you to know that these thoughts are completely normal. Everyone wonders every once in a while if they are doing things the right way and the best way for their baby. Yes, yes they do wonder. Even if you don?t know anyone who has wondered it out loud, they- the mothers and fathers who wonder if they are doing it right- are out there.

Let?s look at the facts:
Fuller is happy, well adjusted, and healthy. He lights up when you engage him. He laughs and babbles constantly. He cries when tired, and can be pretty reasonable about going to sleep. He is a great eater, and now he is enjoying his bananas and getting the hang of eating from a spoon. You keep him warm, clean, and dressed. You go to him when he cries and you let him have his alone time when he just wants to be put down.

So what if he isn?t sleeping through the night? So what if you gave him rice cereal before the bananas? So what if he spits up all the time, soaking his clothes and making his toys grody? He is sleeping. He is eating the bananas. His clothes and toys are washable, maybe you just need to buy him some more bibs.

Quit thinking of the things you should have done, think of the things that you will do. Talk about them with D.

You may not be the parent that you wanted to be, but that will come in time. And if it doesn?t then that?s ok too. It?s ok because you are still a parent. And you love your little boy.

Maybe you can give him a longer hug when you get home tonight. But just know that it is ok and you are a good parent.

Always,
Alli

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