Jun 30 2006
Turns out I can wax poetic about packing
Today I am making headway in dealing with an affliction that I have suffered from ever since I got married. Today I am relinquishing control… I am going to let my husband pack.
Now, let me quickly point out that this is not a “my husband can’t pack worth anything” rant post. No, D is quite capable of finding items and placing them in various carrying containers like duffel bags and suitcases. And D is capable of making lists and deciding what we need to take and what we shouldn’t take and getting things where they should go.
This problem, this affliction, it is all about me. Me wanting to be in control.
See, when we go somewhere, anywhere, I usually get asked a question that begins with the words, “Where is..?” And I like to know the exact answer. And if I don’t know the answer, I get a little stir crazy until I find the item. My stomach gets in a tiny knot and I can’t physically sit still until I have place my hand or made a visual of whatever it is that my family needed. I am a little more relaxed in the car because I know that if I can’t make contact with the item there isn’t anything I can do about it until we stop. But once we get to our destination, I have to know where it is.
When we were leaving my parent’s house at Easter, I was in the living room with all our stuff strewn about and D was still sleeping. My mother asked if this is how it worked, I packed while D slept? I said, yes, but it isn’t because he is sleeping, it is because I am anal about packing.
Usually I pack the stuff in the bags and he packs the car. Simple break down of duties, I think. I don’t have to know where in the car the bag is, I just know that if you wanted to know where I put your towel I could tell you that it is in the blue suitcase with Fuller’s clothes because that is where we had the room.
Well, today, all that responsibility falls on D. Last night I did pack Fuller’s clothes in the blue suitcase, along with all our towels, and then I placed all my clothes in the largest green duffle bag, but that is the extent of my packing. Instead, D and I made a list of all the things he will be responsible for- sippy cups, children’s tylenol, vitamins, packing our dinner and snacks in the cooler, transferring most of Fuller’s DVDs to a compact case, and making sure all our technology gets from here to The Lake.
With the technology, it isn’t just as simple as getting the camcorder into a bag. No, he has to make sure the camcorder, tape, extra tape, and charger all make it to The Lake. The camera is going, but so is the battery charger, the extra battery, the USB cable, and the extra memory card. And yes, I am aware that if we forget our extra battery or cable that my inlaws have the exact same camera, but still. I want to know where ours is. And D gets to do that this time.
And as I type all of that out I am starting to get that little knot in my stomach, so as I go to work and try to focus on work, if I ever wonder how packing is going, I am going to repeat this mantra to myself- “if we forget it, we can pick it up at Wal-Mart.”
At least I have the ipod with me.














