Comments on: I’m just not enough http://crumleyblog.com/2008/03/06/im-just-not-enough/ a family blog for the whole fam damily Mon, 01 Dec 2008 20:31:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Tiffany http://crumleyblog.com/2008/03/06/im-just-not-enough/#comment-2791 Tiffany Fri, 07 Mar 2008 23:26:28 +0000 http://crumleyblog.com/2008/03/06/im-just-not-enough/#comment-2791 I feel your pain. As much as a sibling would help a little bit, the newness wears off and then they realize that they can't play with the baby til they are much older, so it's like a 2 year process. The age difference at this age is huge. I have the same problems and so wish for a sibling for Morgen, but at this point there would be a 6 year difference. I would have loved to have one closer in age but circumstances being as they were, (infertile, split up) it just wasn't in the cards. But it is also the more time she gets with her friends, cousins, the more she wants. It is a never ending battle. She did get a little better once she got to school. I feel your pain. As much as a sibling would help a little bit, the newness wears off and then they realize that they can’t play with the baby til they are much older, so it’s like a 2 year process. The age difference at this age is huge. I have the same problems and so wish for a sibling for Morgen, but at this point there would be a 6 year difference. I would have loved to have one closer in age but circumstances being as they were, (infertile, split up) it just wasn’t in the cards. But it is also the more time she gets with her friends, cousins, the more she wants. It is a never ending battle. She did get a little better once she got to school.

]]> By: suni http://crumleyblog.com/2008/03/06/im-just-not-enough/#comment-2790 suni Fri, 07 Mar 2008 04:27:38 +0000 http://crumleyblog.com/2008/03/06/im-just-not-enough/#comment-2790 I understand where you are coming from. I am not a "get on the floor and play with kids" type of person, so it is a bit hard for me to just do that with him. He loves to be alone, but then there are times he just HAS to be with others. One thing that has helped is his jiu jitsu class 3 times a week. I get there early and stay a bit late so he can have fun with his classmates. We also started going to the library every Wednesday morning for story time. He has friends there. The problem is when we get home and there is no one left, or the days when he doesn't have classes. It gets to be too much. I can't trust the kids in this area, as so many are being taught to not like my son due to his heritage. It's really sad. I can't tell you the number of times I have cried over this. The other thing is that even if you did have another child, you can't guarantee that they will be civil to each other. My 2 sisters are mortal enemies. Inadequacy in everything is a battle I fight daily, and mothering him the right way is the biggest issue of all. Hugs to you@!!!!! I understand where you are coming from. I am not a “get on the floor and play with kids” type of person, so it is a bit hard for me to just do that with him. He loves to be alone, but then there are times he just HAS to be with others. One thing that has helped is his jiu jitsu class 3 times a week. I get there early and stay a bit late so he can have fun with his classmates. We also started going to the library every Wednesday morning for story time. He has friends there. The problem is when we get home and there is no one left, or the days when he doesn’t have classes. It gets to be too much. I can’t trust the kids in this area, as so many are being taught to not like my son due to his heritage. It’s really sad. I can’t tell you the number of times I have cried over this. The other thing is that even if you did have another child, you can’t guarantee that they will be civil to each other. My 2 sisters are mortal enemies.

Inadequacy in everything is a battle I fight daily, and mothering him the right way is the biggest issue of all.

Hugs to you@!!!!!

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