Hello Crumley Family log readers! My name is Tiffany. I know Alli through high school. I had a blog and mrscrumley was the reason I had started blogging. Sadly, I no longer blog but am facing a parenting dilemma I would like you as readers to give your opinion and thoughts on.
I have an almost 6 year old little girl. For 2 years she has asked play soccer. I am a softball person, I know a little bit about basketball, and have never really been a fan of soccer, mainly because I don’t know anything about it. I tried to steer her into other things sports related (she is a dancer, something she asks to do). Finally I gave in and signed her up for soccer. We have played three games.
My daughter she is small, she is not much of a runner. But playing soccer is something she loves. We go to every practice that doesn’t interfere with her one night of dance, and she is excited about practice and games.
Now here is what is all new to me. The parents are competitive. Even at practice they are yelling at their kid to “go get that ball” or “don’t let them pass you” and various other things. I agree with no horseplay, you are out there to learn and to practice, but the other stuff at practice?????
The games are 10 times worse. Last week’s game was the worst. It was a rival coach’s team (notice I said coach) he had to win. Our team won but at the expense of not letting a few of the kids play or if they did play is was for about 3 minutes. These kids were heartbroken and my daughter was part of that group.
Last night’s game really ticked me off. These parents that I speak of, the ones that yell in practice, well, they root for the “good” players on the team. They get upset when their kid is sent out of the game so others can play or are ticked when their kid is sent to play defense. These are 5 and 6 year olds, people. They did not try out for this team. My nieces are in sports (one of which is 15) and this is the first time I have been exposed to this type of competitive nature. Is it just soccer? Is it just my town?
And now the heart wrenching part: My sister was very good in sports. I was not into it as much as she was but I loved to play softball. I was made fun of. My daughter, I think is in that category. I don’t think she is going to be very good at sports, unless she does something that doesn’t involve running (could be a good long distance runner maybe, she paces herself).
So HOW as a parent do you watch as your daughter(child) is looked down upon or made fun of because she is not as good as the others? How do you handle the hurt when she is having a good time and loves it but doesn’t get to play?
Are you a soccer parent? What kind are you? Do you cheer for the whole team or just the good ones? Do you get upset if your child is taken out? Has another parent ever confronted you about your attitude or child? Are you an any other sport parent? Is this type of sportsmanship in every young sport?
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