This time last year I was sitting in a hospital bed basking in the joy of having given birth for a second time. I was either gazing at Tebow’s beautiful red hair or trying to figure out why they gave us the smallest hospital room in the joint.
Since we have been under renovation at our house, separating our family for a short while, I was fretting over birthday party plans.
See, I have this kind of birthday philosophy. I don’t think birthday parties are a requirement for every birthday. But I do think they are important for the first birthday. It isn’t because the child will remember the perfect cake, the tower of presents, and the many guests. When Fuller turned one, we worked for weeks on a party for him. But it was kind of more of a celebration of us, making it through the first year as parents.
This time around, I had this overwhelming desire to invite people to celebrate Tebow’s first year as a way to say “thank you” to them for blessing our family.
I won’t sugarcoat it- this past year has been hard. While having Tebow in our lives has been a joy, the adjustment from one kid to two was way different than I expected. And while our house was fine before, adding one tiny person made it seem really, really small. Other issues created a kind of malaise and well… it was difficult. (And no, I didn’t blog about our hardships, because that isn’t really something I do.)
We have had family and friends come along beside us praying, helping, and just being there for us. And I really wanted to use Tebow’s birthday as a formal way to say thank you. So, I came up with the no-party party.
I made a list of people who we would have invited to an actual party. I then made cupcakes, created a non-invitation, and purchased helium balloons. Today Fuller, Tebow, and I traveled around delivering each “guest” their no-party supplies.
The non-invitation asked each family to read together or play a game, just to celebrate in a small way.
I told someone today, this was my way of getting over my mommy guilt of not having a real party. We just don’t have the time or space to celebrate in a gathering like that. But I hope this way our friends know we really appreciated them in this past year. (And to all our family who isn’t here to celebrate- if I had the money to mail you all your own cupcakes, I totally would.)
We delivered the parties and had a lot of fun doing it. Since we three had been out of town for the last month, we were able to catch up a little bit and make plans to see our friends again soon.
And of course, we are all happy to celebrate Tebow and his first year. It may have been different than expected, but I am so happy he is a part of our family.
Happy Birthday, Tebow!
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